Chabad of Port Washington
Chabad of Port Washington
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A Word from the Rabbi
Rabbi Paltiel Dear Rabbi Shalom M.,

A saintly rabbi visited Israel shortly after the Holocaust, where he spent a few months teaching, inspiring and offering blessings to his broken hearted brethren. When he was about to leave back to the US, the people turned to him in despair: "To whom shall we turn when we are in need of a blessing?

To which the saintly man answered: "Go into a shul any weekday morning; look for a Jew wearing tefillin on his left arm. Then look closely. If you see a number tattooed underneath the tefillin straps... that person has the power to give a blessing."

This Shabbos we will commemorate the one-year anniversary of our beloved R' Zelik Sander. Zelik was a man who came to shul each day, his "numbers" clearly visible between his tefillin straps. In spite of the unimaginable hate and death that he witnessed, he was a proud Jew to the last day of the 97 years of his life. He inspired all of us, including our youth, with his loving, patient personality, his cheerful demeanor and his sense of faith and Jewish pride.

Please join us this Shabbos as we honor his first yahrzeit with a Kiddush, along with a "siyum" - traditional completion of a tractate of the Talmud which my son Ephraim undertook to complete to honor R' Zelik's memory. The actual yahrzeit is Tuesday, when we will gather at 7pm for mincha/maariv and a "siyum" given by my son Levi. Neither one of my boys was asked to do this. They undertook these rigorous courses of study to honor the soul of a man they considered a personal friend, like so many of us did.

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Shalom M. Paltiel

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Coffee & Parsha

Daily Torah class at Chabad: Coffee & Parsha

Monday - Friday | 7:45 - 8:15 AM

In-depth study of weekly Torah portion using the text and classic commentary.

For Men & Women. All are welcome, no membership required. No previous knowledge necessary.

Calendar of Events

Aug
25

Reb Zelik

Honoring the first Yahrzeit of Zelik Sander
Shabbat, August 25, 2012

Siyum - completion of Tractate of the Talmud by Ephriam Paltiel in memory of R' Zelik.
Kiddush luncheon following services

August 28th services in honor of 1st yahrzeit of Zelik Sander, 7 PM. Followed by Siyum - completion of an entire "seder" (division) of the Mishna by Levi Paltiel in memory of R' Zelik.

Feb
17

Israel Trip

Community Trip to Israel - February 2013!
Sunday, February 17 - Monday, February 25

Chabad of Port Washington is joining together with Chabad of the Upper East Side for a Mission to Israel. You won't want to miss this trip, the first for our Chabad, which will be offered in FIVE STAR fashion.

Click here for more info and to RSVP.
Question of the Week
Question of the week
Can a Pregnant Woman Enter a Cemetery? By: Rabbi Aron Moss | Sydney, Australia

Question: I am currently 7 months pregnant, and a good friend's tombstone consecration is coming up next week. I am not sure whether or not to go. I have been told it is generally not the done thing in the Jewish religion to go to a cemetery when pregnant. On the other hand I do want to be there to honor my friend's memory. Would value your thoughts.

Answer: This is the single most common question I am asked. Fascinatingly, though it is a widespread custom for a pregnant woman to avoid going to the cemetery, there is no written source in Jewish law that forbids it. This is an interesting example of a tradition that women took upon themselves without being told. And this tradition is carefully guarded and well known, even more than some outright laws. You will see why

Jewish mothers have known for thousands of years what modern research is only recently discovering. The unborn child is impacted by the spiritual and emotional state of the mother. Her moods, her attitudes, and her surroundings are imprinted on the soul of the child.

This is why the cemetery is not the place for a pregnant woman. When you are creating life, it is better to avoid contact with death. An expecting mother is hosting life in the making, and so the morbid and deathly energy of a cemetery is too starkly contrasted to what is going on inside her. Her focus should remain on the beginning of life, not the end.

Furthermore, feelings of excessive grief or distress may disturb the otherwise peaceful time in the womb. Sometimes emotional pain is unavoidable in life, but we don't have to seek it out. An expecting mother is often fragile and delicate at the best of times. Attending a funeral or consecration may cause an exaggerated reaction which could have been avoided.

Since this is not a law but a custom, there are exceptions where a pregnant woman can go to a cemetery. If she feels that not going may itself cause even more distress, she should go. Some examples would be the funeral of a close friend or relative, or visiting the grave of a parent on the anniversary of their passing, or visiting the grave of a holy person to pray for a healthy birth.

In the end it is left to you to decide what is best. But if you choose not to go, you should not feel at all guilty. Your dear late friend will not be offended. In the world of souls they understand these things. And then in a couple of months, when you feel up to it, you could visit the cemetery yourself to pay your respects.

May G‑d bless you with an easy birth and a healthy child, and only happy times.

 
 
B"H
 
Board of Directors

Adam Katz, Esq., President

Frank Arnold*
Martin H. Brownstein, M.D.*
Howard Fensterman, Esq.
M. Allan Hyman, Esq.
Sara E. Paltiel
Rabbi Shalom M. Paltiel
Alan Rosenzweig
Alan Salzbank
Michael Samuel
Felix Sater
*Emeritus

 
   

Shabbat Times
Candle Lighting Times for
Port Washington, NY
[Based on Zip Code 11050]:
Shabbat Candle Lighting:
Friday, Aug 24
7:21 pm
Shabbat Ends:
Shabbat, Aug 25
8:21 pm
Torah Portion: Shoftim
 

 
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Community News

BIRTHDAYS


Emma Ariel Podolsky 8/27

Jonathan Kobrinsky 8/28
Adi Levin 8/28
Leah Weingast 8/29
Robin Freeman 8/30


Mr. Frederic H. Gould 8/30

ANNIVERSARIES

Alan & Karen Salzbank 8/25


Jackie & Phil Becker 8/27


Mr. & Mrs. J. Kobin 8/27

YARTZEIT
Samuel David Katz,
8/29/2012 | Elul 11, 5772
observed by

Adam & Diane Katz

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Daily Thought
Stop Kicking Yourself

Why do we kick ourselves so hard when things go wrong? Because we pat ourselves on the head when things succeed. As though success and failure are all in our hands.

Yes, we believe. We believe that it is not our talents, our brains, our good looks or hard work that brings success; that everything is in the hands of heaven. But when we walk out the door into the cold, harsh world, why is it that our beliefs lack the guts to come out with us?

It is because they haven't gone through the first, inner door: They haven't walked from our soul into our minds. If we would take the time to learn and to ponder, to let that deep faith of our soul sink into our minds and our hearts, then it would be more than faith-it would be vision, an attitude. It would be trust. Confidence.

Don't just believe it is so. Come to know that it is so.


 
Schedule of Services

Sunday Morning

Services: 9:00 AM

Monday - Friday
Services: 7:00 AM

Shabbos
Friday Evening: 7:00 PM

Saturday Morning: 9:30 AM
Followed by Kiddush Luncheon at 12
Mincha: Following Lunch

 

 
Schedule of Classes

Coffee & Parsha Class
Monday - Friday | 7:45 - 8:15 AM

Tanya Class
with Rabbi Paltiel
Saturdays | 8:45-9:30 AM

 
 

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The Parshah In A Nutshell
Parshat Shoftim
Moses instructs the people of Israel to appoint judges and law enforcement officers in every city. " Justice, justice shall you pursue," he commands them, and you must administer it without corruption or favoritism. Crimes must be meticulously investigated and evidence thoroughly examined-a minimum of two credible witnesses is required for conviction and punishment.

In every generation, says Moses, there will be those entrusted with the task of interpreting and applying the laws of the Torah. "According to the law that they will teach you, and the judgment they will instruct you, you shall do; you shall not turn away from the thing that they say to you, to the right nor to the left."

Shoftim also includes the prohibitions against idolatry and sorcery; laws governing the appointment and behavior of a king; and guidelines for the creation of " cities of refuge" for the inadvertent murderer. Also set forth are many of the rules of war: the exemption from battle for one who has just built a home, planted a vineyard, married, or is " afraid and soft-hearted"; the requirement to offer terms of peace before attacking a city; and the prohibition against wanton destruction of something of value, exemplified by the law that forbids to cut down a fruit tree when laying siege (in this context the Torah makes the famous statement, " For man is a tree of the field").

The Parshah concludes with the law of the eglah arufah-the special procedure to be followed when a person is killed by an unknown murderer and his body is found in a field-which underscores the responsibility of the community and its leaders not only for what they do, but also for what they might have prevented from being done.